Women don’t realize how important they are to their man and to God. We think that if we aren’t the ones going out there on the front lines fighting the spiritual war, then we aren’t serving God. In singleness, we can do that. We can get on the front lines and volunteer at church and become mentors, ect. But, in marriage, how are we glorifying God?
In marriage, our man/husband only has limited strength, courage, endurance and understanding. But, with his wife by his side, giving him encouragement, ideas, and understanding of topics he may not understand, we are enabling him to be complete and stronger and able to do great things for the Kingdom of God. If we weren’t there for our husbands like that, there is no way they could accomplish the things that they do when they have us. We are reaching so many more through the union of our marriage, therefore, furthering the Kingdom of God and serving Him.
This doesn’t mean that when you get married you have to stop serving on the front lines. But, your marriage needs to take first priority over everything else in your life. Keeping God first and foremost in your marriage is glorifying God as He has called us to do.
By keeping true to God and to your husband and modeling the kind of marriage God intended it to be, you are also serving as a role model to other women and girls. Showing them what a good, godly and fulfilling marriage looks like and how to make it last a lifetime. That is serving God as well.
I guarantee, if a woman uses her God-given wisdom and discernment to pick a worthy man of God, and she selflessly and continuously loves (in the action sense) and encourages her husband, she will get that in return from her husband and God will bless her and her marriage abundantly. God will give her peace, love and true joy and happiness in that union between her husband and God.
The key here is that this will not work if God is not the center of that marriage. While it is certainly possible to be happy in a marriage without God, it will not be truly fulfilling, as God is the only one that can completely fulfill a person and bless the marital union.
Now what do I mean by Love in the action sense? Love is not just a feeling. It’s not all about the butterflies in the stomach and that starry-eyed feeling you have in the beginning of your marriage. Love is also an action word. By loving your husband, you are showing him respect when you don’t feel like it. You are encouraging him when he doesn’t return it to you. You are actively and physically taking care of his needs and desires. You are putting him first (in the earthly sense) before your own needs and desires. You are doing the little things that show him he is important to you and listening to him, trying to understand him. You are being patient and kind to him, yet lovingly correcting him when it’s needed (pray on that one). When in an argument, be loving and understanding as you speak to him. Be his best friend and make sure he knows he is the center of your world.
Keep in mind, God is always number one, first and foremost, but on earth, your husband is to be first and foremost above all others on earth, even your children. That doesn’t mean you love anyone less, but God directs us “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord” Colossians 3:18 ESV and Mark 10:6-9 ESV “But from the beginning of creation, ‘God made them male and female.’ ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”
God also instructs, “submitting to one another out of reverence for Christ” Ephesians 5:21 ESV. God gives us a lot of instruction when it comes to marriage.He compares it to His love for the Church, therefore, it must be extremely important and sacred.
By loving our husbands in the action sense of the word, that is submitting to our husbands and thereby obeying God and serving God. If our marriage and our attitudes do not reflect this, then we need to get busy. If your husband is a God-fearing, God-seeking man and you start submitting or loving your husband as God intended it to be, He WILL respond favorably. You will see a big difference in your marriage and in your man.
Women, we all fantasize about having this loving and romantic marriage til death do us part.We can achieve that if we use our God-given power on our men. They will be putty in our hands and that spark with be kept alive. Be your husband’s best friend, confidant, girlfriend and play date. Be romantic with him and playful and remind him in playful little ways how much you love him and how much he means to you. Make him your everything and he will make you his everything. Women…We have the power, now use it to get what you want.
God be with you and be blessed in your marriage.
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